Thursday, January 30, 2014

Happy Chinese New Year - 2014

I had every intention of sending this letter out during Xmas 2013, then New Year's Day 2014.  So now this is my last chance to send out our 2013 letter :-).  Happy Chinese New Year - Year of the Horse.  2013 was full of excitement for the Lapena family.

Isabel (Mei) started Kindergarten at Starr King Elementary in late August 2013.  We took this photo on her first day.  Starr King is a public school that offers Mandarin Immersion teaching.  The commute started out tough and we were concerned whether Isabel would adapt quickly.  Her preschool had a ratio of 1 teacher to 5 students and Starr King's ratio is 1 to 20.  Well, we didn't have to worry.  She loves her teacher, her friends, and her new school so far.   It is amazing how quickly she is growing up.
  • She has already learned how to write over 50 Chinese characters and has gotten used to the concept of homework
  • She loves to draw whenever she has free time
  • She argues with pretty strong logic which makes our job of telling her what to do a bit harder - I can see my future when she becomes a teenager (not looking forward to it)
  • She started playing soccer at Starr King.  Starr King is a huge soccer school.  Kindergarten has two teams of 12 kids each this past fall.
  • She is an Orange belt in Karate and won the Northern California Karate Championship for her division. She is amazingly focused and intense when she practices.  Most of all, she is still having fun.
This past year, we have also learned to use the star system to motivate MeiMei to do things she doesn't like (e.g., finish her vegetables and fruits, finish her dinner, drink more water, etc..).  So far it has been working quite amazingly well.  I am crossing my fingers that I can still use this method for a few years. 

Alexis (Ling) has become quite a character.  She turned two this Dec 2013.  She is super social and almost always smiling.  She started talking well before two and now loves to sing and dance as well.  Both Isabel and Ling love the song "Let it Go" from Frozen. I must have seen them perform it 20 times already.  Alexis would even stump her feet as she belts out "Let it go, let it go.."

Alexis is well aware of her charm. Unlike Isabel who will pout when we say no to some of her requests.  If we say no to Alexis, she will simply come closer with a bigger smile.  Her hands would be clasped together.  She would tilt her hand, open those big eyes, and ask again with more earnest.  It's the most adorable thing and of course quite dangerous to us.  We will have a harder time saying no to her and I think she knows it already.  Yikes.

Alexis does have a temper and can get super feisty when provoked.  Since she is little, Isabel can't help but pick on her at times.  Ling has learned to shout a powerful "No" whenever this happens.  At least we know she won't be bullied when she gets older.  She is already a force to be reckoned with.

Jaime and I both had a big year.  Jaime took over the marketing team for Desk.com and started managing 7 people.  He is naturally good at motivating others, but it was still a transition.  As he moved up the ladder, he was not thrilled by the corporate politics he had to deal with.  In 2014, he will have to weigh the benefit of the golden handcuffs vs. the thrill of joining an early start-up.

I finished my Wells Fargo contract in Sept 2013.  It was a good run that gave me great work life balance and time to build my career success blog.  After much soul searching, I decided to take six months off to take my blog to the next level.  I just beta launched a new service called Soft Skill Gym - an interactive, online learning gym to help professionals develop soft skills over time and work smart.  It was a scary and exciting move to take, but so far I am enjoying the journey wherever it may take me.  :-) I already spent 40 years being goal oriented.  I want the next 40 to be more about the journey of learning and daring to experience new things.

2013 was also a great year for reconnecting with old friends and making new ones.  I think it's pretty hard to make new friends at our age.  We are set in our ways and have less time.  Luckily we have made some amazing new friends in 2013 from our work, from networking, and from our neighborhood in the city.

Agnes continues to be the core to our overall family happiness.  She loves the kids and also strive to
improve herself.  She is currently training for a half marathon. This girl will get up at 5:30 in the morning to do her run twice a week.  We are all inspired to work out more because of her.  Agnes is also a master decorator.  There is five of us living in a 1000 sq ft apartment.  We did a massive clean out and now our apartment feels bigger than ever because of changes Agnes designed. We are so lucky to have her as part of our family.

Overall, we are very thankful for our life.  During the week, we work, play games with the kids, help Isabel with her homework, but also have time to do workouts or go to happy hours.  On the weekends, we have play dates, birthday parties, family visits, soccer games, piano lessons. We are always busy, but Jaime and I are also blessed to be able to do date nights 3 weekends a month.  The older we get, the more we realize it's the simple life that brings us the most happiness.

2014 promises to be another great year of adventure, learning, and laughter.  We are jumping into it with open arms.  I hope this letter finds you well.  We wish you a very best and eventful 2014!

Lei, Jaime, Isabel, Alexis, and Agnes










Monday, January 27, 2014

Ginger bread house and cookie

Isabel got this for Christmas from uncle Nel and Tita Tess. We just decorated with icing and candy yesterday. Very fun. We are eating the cookie legs right now.

Thank you uncle Nel and Tita Tess

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Isabel's karate workshop

On Friday we drove down to San Jose so that isabel can attend a karate workshop with the master sensei from japan. Only isabel and I went since jaime had to work and then look after Lexi.

We ended up carpooling with Mira and his dad roger which made the trip much more doable. Isabel and Mira and a great time.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

A princess sleep over at auntie Em's.

The girls had a weekend sleep over at Emily and Roy's this weekend and had a blast with their cousin Gabby. They saw magic shows, made cookies, dressed up, had a frozen dance party and watched movies. It was hard to take them away on Sunday. Thanks Em and Roy for hosting.

Monday, December 16, 2013

Ling Ling's Photo Story - Happy 2nd Birthday

We had a quiet celebration at home since she is still young and we can get away with not having a party.  She still had a blast with her cake and a few presents.  As always, Agnes did her magic with this photo story.  Thank you Agnes.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

A good little patient

Isabel had a wet cough and labored breathing so I took her to the doctors. Luckily, clear lungs, no fever. She just has a cold. We took these while we were waiting for the doctor. Definitely does not look sick.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Thanksgiving photo shoot

Impromptu, agnes pulled out her fancy camera so we can take some photos on thanksgiving. Daddy was napping so he didn't make it into he photos.

Alexis and isabel were wearing the dresses from Ninong Louis. Thanks Ninong. ;-)

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Stitch Fix Sucks

Jaime gave a very generous gift certificate to try Stitch Fix - an online service that will send you clothes in the mail for a styling fee that can be used to cover cost of any purchase I make if I like the clothes.  The concept is great but after 3 tries so far, I have found them to suck on execution - poor quality control and bad customer service and pretty over-priced clothes.

Styling fee is $20 and all clothes are $48 and up to $88 for the cheapest options. More expensive option can go up to a few hundred dollars.   That's okay if the clothes were good but here were the issues
  1. Poor quality - My 3rd "fix" arrived and I like one of the pieces but it had black fuzz all over it.  I emailed to see if they can send me another one. They said they can't but said they will offer me a dry cleaning discount.  I had to ask again how much and they said $10 for this $48 piece.
  2. Bad customer service - I emailed back to tell them the fuzz probably won't come out with dry cleaning and I am going to return everything.  I also requested my $20 styling fee refunded.  They agreed.  I sent back the clothes and then nothing happened.  I had to email them a 3rd time to ask for the refund and then they did it.
  3. Bad to worse customer service - After thinking about it, I decided I really don't want to try any more "fixes," I rather get a check for the $80 credit I still left or have it refunded to Jaime's card.  and this is what they wrote me.  Hi Lei, Unfortunately we are unable to refund credits after they've already been purchased. Let us know if you would like us to cancel and deactivate your account and we will do so accordingly. Have a great weekend!"  I don't about you but this sounds like once you decide to try them, they will hold your money hostage. Worse, they will offer to cancel your account promptly so that they can just keep the money.  
I don't care how much more funding this company has gotten.  They are no BirchBox.  What is supposed to be a convenient, fun experience turned out to be time consuming and down right frustrating.  I have no other choice but to schedule another "fix" in order to spend the rest of my credit.  I don't recommend trying them.

Lei


 
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Monday, November 25, 2013

I love bikram yoga

It was a typical Monday night. I feel a little tired but gets Into my yoga outfit anyway so I would be incented to go.

I eat dinner and feel more tired and begin to have an internal debate - maybe I am just too tired to go to yoga. Maybe I should rest since its cold flu season. Maybe....

Well my logic prevailed. 99% of the time after such a debate and I decide to go anyway I feel awesome afterwards.

Well now I just finished class. I feel accomplished and relaxed. So glad I showed up today

Lei

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Sunday, November 24, 2013

Isabel gets orange belt

We are so proud of isabel who tested this sat and got orange belt. She and another boy are the most senior of all the karate classes - total about 50 kids.

We are glad she still like it and she is proud of herself to keep learning and achieving in this.

Lei