I have been rushing

Only a few days ago, I realized why I have been so tense. I have been rushing around everywhere trying to do too many things.

I started work 3 weeks ago part time and I thought "great I live so close, I can come home and feed the baby at lunch time." What a brilliant idea! Well, not so. I tried and tried and ended up rushing home to feed her and thinking about work as well and then rushing back for meetings and then getting home at 6 or 6:30pm.

What was supposed to be a pretty easy schedule feels like a 12 hour work day 4 days a week. I guess that's what I get for being a perfectionist. I have since learned. Now I go to work from 8:30 to 3:30, eating lunch at my desk, so I can go home and then devote my complete attention to the baby or working out or relaxing.

Finally an doable schedule... I also was able to settle into a regular workout routine - Sundays and Thursdays yoga and Wii Fit twice a week. I haven't figured out how to fit salsa nights in there yet, although I probably should have gone tonight since I am still up now and feeling anxious.

I have been trying to go to sleep by 10pm since I get up early now to feed the baby before I go to work. Well, the idea is nice but I am not always sleepy early, like tonight. I tried for an hour to sleep and finally gave up to blog.

I am still learning how not to rush. I think it has to do with learning how to not control everything and letting it flow. It's a work in progress. I think I was doing fairly well before the baby. As a new mom, I easily reverted to my old ways of survival - by trying to be a perfectionist. Now that I am starting to get the hang of things, perhaps I will let up. Time to sleep...

- Lei

The Perfect Couple

I can only say that Lei and I have evolved in our relationship and our concept of being with the idea person. I believe it lies in perspective. Our perspective of the PERFECT partner has evolved. I think back at a time when our ideas of the perfect person for our relationship seemed so skewed. It's an idea of perfection that doesn't truly exist.

Then we met each other. And just when the two of us end up with who both of us thought was seemingly the most imperfect for us, it turns out to be ..... well ....... perfect!

I think this quote sums it up "perfectly":

"True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."

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So for all of you perfectionists, here are some quotes on perfection that give perspective (try saying that 10 times fast!). Enjoy....

* The true perfection of the person lies not in what the person has, but in what the person is.

* Perfect numbers like perfect people are very rare.

* All of us failed to match our dreams of perfection. So I rate us on the basis of our splendid failure to do the impossible.

* It is only imperfection that complains of what is imperfect. The more perfect we are the more gentle and quiet we become towards the defects of others.

* No one becomes perfect, but some become great.

* If a man should happen to reach perfection in this world, he would have to die immediately to enjoy himself.

* The important work of moving the world forward does not wait to be done by perfect people.

* No one is perfect… that’s why pencils have erasers.

* A designer knows he has achieved perfection, not when there is nothing left to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.

* The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

* Only mediocrity can be trusted to be always at its best.

* This is the very perfection of a person, to find out his or her own imperfection.

* Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly.

* Artists who seek perfection in everything are those who cannot attain it in anything.

- Jaime